If you would like to learn about my illness, though nobody truly fully understands it, there is a lot of good information available here: Complex Regional Pain Syndrome I try to raise awareness as I had never heard of this myself, and many still have not. Mine is type II and progressive. This is on top of Fibromyalgia, which I also have lived with for a very long time, and can assure you is a very real, though also not well understood illness. This is what my foot looks like when I stay standing long enough for a quick shower. I do not share for sympathy, but to give some understanding of what is going on, since my illnesses are in some ways invisible.
If you really desire a "Lily Starr Spanking," cannot afford to pay, and are willing to act out some role plays with me on video, (this usually means showing your face,) contact me for more information as I sometimes will work out a trade for play deal with you.
Want to hear some of my clients describe their experience of being spanked by me over the years?
Here is my collection of wonderful testimonials:
"Lily Starr is an intelligent, warm and attractive lady who has no problem delivering a memorable spanking to deserving boys and girls.
I first became aware of Lily through the various spanking websites a couple of years ago. Since there is a definite lack of disciplinarian spanking women in San Diego I jumped at the chance to see her when she came to visit last year.
Lily met me at the door of her hotel room and led me inside. After a few pleasantries she got right down to business. Through our correspondence I had requested a hard spanking without role play or any particular bad deed, and she gladly obliged. OMG it was the hardest, longest spanking I'd ever received. She had me lie across the bed (bare bottom of course), started with her hand and then proceeded through her arsenal of hairbrushes, paddles, a very heavy strap and a wicked cane. After I was thoroughly thrashed I asked her to demonstrate the 'diaper' position, and guys I have to tell you that you better avoid that from an angry woman at any cost; the pain was the absolute worst. Unfortunately my fortitude is greater than my ability to absorb punishment, and when my skin began to break Lily suggested we stop.
I plan on seeing Lily again soon. This time I'm going to ask 'Aunt Lily' to punish me for being lazy (The aunt part is a role play fantasy but the lazy part is very real-Gulp!).
So guys and gals, if you're in need of a great spanking for any reason go see Lily Starr. Treat her nicely and you won't be disappointed."
-David in San Diego
"It was wonderful! I mean my bottom burned all the way home, especially my right fanny cheek down low at the thigh and to the right of the cheek around up on the leg, well I say that but every time I concentrate on a spot my bottom pulsates in a different place, very good coverage! But, my head is clear as a bell, my punishment released and my stress relieved, my head was swimming and dizzy when I reached my car, but as it cleared a sense of peace over took me, you were very right about me feeling better once it was over, thank you very much for a great session, you are a real pro, a Spanking Star Miss Lily Starr." Follow-up three days later: "My bottom still hurts some (another testimonial) pleasantly reminding me of the spanking. I have been a good boy since, with a nice attitude if sitting uncomfortably."
-Bob in Ventura
"I was fortunate enough to see Miss Lily about a week ago. Although I was in her area unexpectedly, I was lucky enough for her to be able to fit me in to see her on short notice. We sent a few emails back and forth with me explaining that I was looking for an encouragement type session to refocus on some things and let some others go. Lovely Miss Lily met me at the door, was very courteous and got me a glass of water. We sat down for about five minutes so she could make sure that she understood exactly what I was looking for (definitely not a time for miscommunications). Miss Lily gave me the longest warm-up of my life then proceeded to take me exactly where I needed to go! It seems pretty obvious that she is a switch because she definitely understood where my head was during the session. In the same way a masseuse would touch to stay connected, Miss Lily would touch my lower back during the spanking and brush my legs with her fingertips when walked around to get another implement. I definitely felt nurtured and cared for by her. Miss Lily is a wonderful top! I give my highest recommendation to her for a job well done. A+ in my book all the way! Thanks again Lily for the wonderful job! :-)"
-Ted in Arizona
"Well I finally got to meet Miss Lily. It was quite some time after discovering her through Fetlife. Maybe a year or more. She is so sweet!! :) Even when she puts you over her knee and bares your bottom, she is not mean, but very calm and even kind. But don't believe for a minute that she isn't serious. Her kind, calm demeanor doesn't mean she's not going to punish you. You will absolutely be getting a very real spanking and believe me, it will stay with you for quite some time. It's been weeks since my spanking, and while there isn't any physical reminder now, I know she is my disciplinarian and I have a very healthy respect for her.
When I arrived I was struck by how Miss Lily seems rather shy! Very easy to talk to, though. We said hello and sat and chatted for a bit. She got me a glass of water, because of course I was nervous! I also had over an hour drive to get there.
Obviously not all spankings are going to be the same, but I'll relate some of my experience. When it was time to start, Miss Lily sat on the couch and instructed me to pull my pants down and lie across her lap. Once in position she pulled my underpants down to bare my bottom. She started giving me a firm but not too hard hand-spanking to warm me up. Miss Lily spanked me with the palm of her hand, then a hairbrush-like smaller paddle and a leather paddle. After a while she led me into the other room where I was instructed to lie across her bed, with pillows under my hips to raise my bottom up. I'm not sure what all she used on me! But I asked for "wide coverage" within any safe area to spank, and I got it. Every square inch of my bottom and spilling down a couple of inches onto the tops of my thighs just below my bottom cheeks started to feel like they were on fire. Changing positions sometimes, she had me stand and bend over and grab my ankles for a school style paddling. She has a wooden paddle with the words "Bad Boy Paddle" printed on it. It is very effective! It's not too "thuddy" and has plenty of red-hot sting. She also gave me a lengthy belt whipping with her black leather belt. I absolutely LOVED that!! At one point while I was face down on the bed, she gave me swats with a wooden paddle--and made me count them and thank her in between each swat. This was a specific punishment for something I needed to be disciplined for. Believe me, those swats REALLY hurt!!! I didn't think I could take it, but when it was over she said I was a good boy for taking my punishment so well. I had also asked for her to punish me in the "diapering" position. Now some people don't like that… it does seem to be more painful. But looking up at her as she methodically whipped my bottom, stroke after stroke after stroke with her leather belt, was just beyond incredible. It was like watching a "Point of View" video, but YOU are getting the whipping. She didn't smile, but didn't look mean at all. She just calmly and effectively dealt out the punishment strokes. She was disciplining me, and it wasn't going to be over until I was given a thorough whipping. It was cathartic. It was amazing. Then I laid back down on the bed, face down, and she gave me a moderate caning. Nothing that would break the skin, but boy, was the sting painful.
At the end of my punishment, my bottom was thoroughly reddened with welts. I put my pants back on and we returned to the living room. I knelt and she gave me a long hug, and I felt very safe and cared for in her arms. I got every bit of discipline that I needed, and felt warmth from head to toe. Totally grateful. We had a nice little visit afterward, and I made my way home with a *very* hot bottom. My bottom was sore for at least 4 or 5 days afterward, so I had plenty to remind me of the good, hard spanking I received from Miss Lily.
So I finally got to see Lily Starr! I hope to be able to see her again soon. She is very nice and boy can she ever spank. It was a wonderful experience, and I'm really looking forward to the next time I can visit Miss Lily!"
-Ben in San Bernardino
"Lily is a very nice person and gave me a good spanking that was tailored perfectly to my personal needs. I wanted to feel punished but couldn't go home with bruises. So she let me monitor the condition of my butt as the spanking progressed. She warmed me up with her hand and quickly proceeded to implements used with enough force to give me a few tears before any significant bruising started. Thanks Lily! You have a satisfied customer here!"
-Jeff in Boston
"A Visit to Lily Starr
I'm from the Mid-Atlantic region, an area pretty will stocked with what I call "general service BDSM dommes," to whom spanking is just a part of a session that involves several other activities. I'm a pure, 100% male bottom spanko - when I book a session, all I'm after is a spanking delivered by a woman, primarily OTK, primarily with the hand, and in a non-dungeon environment. I haven't found what I seek around home so when I travel, I look around to see if there's a spanker with a good reputation, or at least good potential, near where I'm going. I've had remarkably good results by exchanging some e-mail and making a careful choice at houses such as The Dominion in Los Angeles. On a recent trip to both LA and San Diego, I decided to check out the possibility of getting a good spanking in San Diego for a change. That's when I came across Lily Starr.
A Google search turned up her name with a link to a Backpage.com ad. Normally I put those at the bottom of my stack because Backpage has a reputation for having as many flakes and rip-offs as good prospects, but since Lily also had a web site, I checked it out and it seemed from what she wrote that her interests matched mine. She wasn't into leather/bondage/bullwhipping, but she was deeply interested in spanking and seemed to have a good understanding of what makes those like me enjoy a spanking. She has a bunch of videos, so I had an opportunity to see her at work, and she has attended a number of spanking parties (Shadow Lane and such) so it's clear that she was experienced. I checked her out with a spanker I know well who I thought might know her, and she gave Lily the green light, confirming that she indeed did "get it" and knew what a spankee needed. I was impressed enough to attempt to see her while I was on that side of the country.
It turned out that the San Diego ad was for a couple of dates where she was traveling to San Diego, she doesn't actually live there. The dates didn't match up with my trip, and I'm not really into hotel room sessions, but she did say that she could host a session in her home during the time I was available. This was a bit of a detour for me, but I had some loose time and a rental car, so I headed out to the desert to meet her.
We decided to meet for lunch so we'd have some time to get to know one another better, had a good Mexican meal and some pleasant conversation, and then we went back to her house for the session. Before we started, we talked about limits, likes, and dislikes, and together we picked out a couple of implements. She has quite a collection!
There's no need to go into a blow-by-blow, but I'll just mention a few points. First off, I noticed that in most of her photos and videos, although she was neatly dressed, she was wearing jeans or pants. I prefer my spankers to look more feminine, so I asked if she wouldn't mind wearing a skirt or dress for the occasion, and she was happy to comply. I don't do involved role plays, but like to set up a scene so that there's a reason for getting a spanking. For the session, I was a neighbor who often helped out the local students with science projects, repairing their bikes, or other little things that took advantage of my skills, knowledge, and workshop. Her son had been getting home from school later and later and was neglecting his household chores. When she finally punished him with a spanking, he told her that he had been at my house working on a project and the time just got away from us.
Well, she felt that he still deserved his punishment because he knew his responsibilities, but felt that as an adult, I should also take responsibility to see that he really had the time to spend with me and wasn't neglecting things that he needed to do at home. Of course Lily concluded that my punishment should be the same as her son's, and that's where we started.
After a brief discussion, it was pants down and over her lap where she started spanking me with her hand. She spanks hard and fast, and it didn't take very long for me to get sore. Then she went at me with a hairbrush, and finally my own belt. She only stopped when she (and I, too) felt that going further would leave bruises, which I had told her I didn't want. But I can assure you that it was a very thorough spanking, and the dialog in between flurries of blows make it seem very real.
She finished up with a rubdown with some lotion, and we talked a while afterward before I left for my drive down to San Diego. This was one spanking that, while I didn't have to drive standing up, I felt a tingle from two days afterward, yet I had no damage other than redness. She gave me just the right level of spanking, which is a rare thing.
So in closing, if your interests are similar to mine and it's a real spanking given with care and attention that you want, I can recommend Lily Starr. I urge you to communicate with her (she answers e-mail promptly) and let her know exactly what you're after. She's no doubt capable of giving other styles of spanking including pure discipline, and playing other roles if you're into that. She's the real deal, and really understands what makes us spankos tick."
"I was in Palm Springs on business and found there was no one around to give me a spanking…. Until I found Lily Starr's website and arranged a meeting.
We decided that I would be a bad boy who had upset my teachers, governess and even my probation officer! They had tried all methods to control me, even a spanking, but nothing had worked. So as a last resort they sent me to the official discipline officer!
I had a letter with a long list of my crimes that needed to be expunged. We also arranged for Lily’s friend Mya Rose to watch as a “witness”.
We had a great afternoon with me being naughty, getting punished harder and harder until I started to get less cheeky as it was the only way to stop the beatings.
Lily is a lovely person and it was a pleasure to be spanked by her. She has a very compassionate nature and looked after my bum with great care.
Thank you Lily and thanks to the witness."
-Stephen in the UK
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I'm now mostly retired from private session work, because I unfortunately developed an unexpected and highly painful chronic neurological disease in late 2015, triggered by a foot surgery meant to reduce pain. I'm unable to walk properly or drive, and my malfunctioning nervous system is affecting me in many ways, though my ability to give a good spanking does not seem to have diminished A dear client made me this great meme after I spanked him. Please also check out my client testimonials below!
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